Learn why and how to start a forgiveness practice now instead of waiting until your last days.
In this episode I share my thoughts about the importance of forgiveness and why you shouldn’t wait until the end of life to start practicing it. I’ve been working on it all my adult life and I can guarantee you it’s a worthwhile endeavor!
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Many of my hospice patients have been concerned about practicing forgiveness before they died. I sat with them at their bedsides as they struggled to let go of their anger and bitterness so that they could die in peace.
But I learned that it is possible to start the process of forgiveness now so that the task will be much easier at the end of life. Here are some of the mindset shifts I’ve found are helpful as you learn to forgive (listen to the episode to hear the details):
- Life is a classroom – you can learn from any experience
- You are not entitled to a life free from difficulties
- The past no longer exists except in your memory where you keep negative events alive
- It’s not your job to punish those who have harmed you (and trying to do that just hurts you even more)
- You can make yourself whole again without getting an apology
- The 4-View Forgiveness can help you get a broader perspective on past events
- Simple rituals can help you let go of the past
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Until next week remember …